“I actually wanted him to hit me. That would cross the line and give me the reason I needed to break up with him.” Source: Huffington Post article on domestic violence, May 11, 2015
Domestic violence is often not physical. It can – and often is – ‘words’.
As a matter of fact, some women do not even realize they are in an abusive relationship because there is no physical fear. But what they fail to realize is that emotional fear and mental torment are definitely forms of ‘abuse’. It’s the way a person attempts, and often succeeds, at controlling another person. By using verbal attacks and innuendos, the perpetrator is able to control the abused victim – and even make the victim believe she is the cause of the pain and anguish in the relationship.
If you are in a verbally abuse relationship, take action NOW! Verbal abuse can often turn into physical abuse at any time. It is often a sign of more violent physical abuse to follow. So being aware of your situation and acting is critical. Not sure whether you’re in an emotionally abusive situation or not?
According to WomensHealth.gov you may be experiencing emotional abuse if someone:
- Monitors what you’re doing all the time
- Unfairly accuses you of being unfaithful all the time
- Prevents or discourages you from seeing friends or family
- Tries to stop you from going to work or school
- Gets angry in a way that is frightening to you
- Controls how you spend your money
- Humiliates you in front of others
- Threatens to hurt you or people you care about
- Threatens to harm himself or herself when upset with you
- Says things like, “If I can’t have you then no one can.”
- Decides things for you that you should decide (like what to wear or eat)
No one has the right to hurt you in any way. Learn more about how to get help. PLEASE – Take action NOW If you’re in any type of abusive relationship.
- Call 800-799-SAFE (7233) or 800-787-3224 (TDD).
- Staff are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
- More than 170 languages are available.
- You will hear a recording and may have to wait for a short time.
- Hotline staff offer safety planning and crisis help. They can connect you to shelters and services in your area.
- Staff can send out written information on topics such as domestic violence, sexual assault, and the legal system.
- You can get help through email on the hotline’s contact page.